How to find a wife in a godly way

The Christian church has a surplus of two things: Beautiful, godly women and year-old boys with beards. As a result, we are witnessing church-wide extended adolescence, the general acceptance of mid-life singleness, and a silent increase of pornography use. Now before I start, this article is going to upset three groups of Christian readers. First, the immature men. In a culture being overtaken by an ungodly form of feminism, men are increasingly feeling intimidated. Now, instead of growing up, knowing up, and showing up—most men, even Christian men, have opted for passivity in the form of workaholism, video games, and guy nights.

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Content:

• 10 Steps to Find a Godly Woman
• 10 Point Godly Spouse Checklist for Women
• Finding a Wife
• How To Find A Godly Man In A Godless World
• 16 Ways to Find a Wife According to the Bible
• The Transformed Wife
• Finding a Wife
• Biblical Advice for Brothers Who Want to Find a Wife (pt. 2)
• How to Find Husband or Wife God’s way

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10 Steps to Find a Godly Woman

As a pastor, over the years I had my fair share of people approach me to find out if we were a "courtship" church or a "dating" church. The people invariably would tell me that their approach was "the biblical way. Perhaps you've seen this list floating around the world-wide-web, but it's worth reviewing because it makes a very important point. So here it is, 16 ways to find a wife according to the Bible:. When the women come out to dance, grab one and carry her off to be your wife.

Note: this will cost you a rib. Get tricked into marrying the wrong woman. Then work another seven years for the woman you wanted to marry in the first place. Fourteen years of toil for a wife. Prepare to lose four sons though. Take his widow. Obviously, this list was written with humor in mind, and some of these "ways," are not prescriptive but descriptive of the sinful ways that God's people have conducted themselves in the past--they are in no way exemplary.

But this does demonstrate an important point--people often want the Bible to say certain things, such as how to find a spouse and marry, but they ignore portions of Scripture that don't fit their paradigm. The Bible has more to say about arranged marriages, for example, than it does "courtship" or dating. So then, how do we proceed? We have to realize that the Bible does not speak to every issue we will face in life.

Just ask Solomon, who had to use wisdom when the two prostitutes came to him claiming to both be the mother of one child. We must follow those things that God has given us. In all of our relationships we have the obligation to exercise the fruit of the Spirit and not mistreat anyone, that is especially true for a prospective spouse.

We also have the clear biblical command that a Christian is free to marry whomever he or she chooses, so long as the prospective mate is "in the Lord" 1 Cor.

But in the end, choosing a spouse calls for wisdom. The Bible does not give us a specific means by which we can find spouses. Some might be introduced by family or friends. Some might cultivate a letter-writing relationship or as we might more commonly find it, e-mail, or some form of social media.

In some cultures the thought of dating or courting is out of the question. I once walked in on one of my office mates in grad school--he was a Christian training for the ministry in Japan. He was intently reading a file; it looked like a personnel file. Out of curiousity I asked him what he was reading. He told me it was a file on a young woman that his father had sent him. His family, sight unseen except for a few photos in the file was arranging his marriage.

I was stunned, but nevetheless made aware that godly Christians don't all do things the same way. The greater doctrinal point here is that in the pursuit of finding a spouse, we must be mindful two things: 1 that we are mindful of God's revealed will in the moral law--we should not violate it in word, thought, or deed; and 2 Christian liberty--where God has spoken, we are bound, but where he has not spoken we are free. We are not bound by the commandments of men. This means that godly Christians may differ in how they live their lives, but it doesn't mean that one is holier than another because she dates and doesn't court.

We should also note that in its collective history, the church has never addressed the issue in its creeds or confessions about how to find a spouse. Perhaps this should tell us that it is a matter of Christian liberty and that in the end, we should rely on God's grace, wisdom, prayer, and godly counsel rather than make claims that the Bible has never made.

Skip to main content. Baugh R. Scott Clark Bryan D. Estelle Ryan Glomsrud W. Robert Godfrey Michael S. Horton Dennis E. Johnson Joel E. Kim Julius J. Kim James R. Lund Charles K. Telfer A. Biblical Studies M. Historical Theology M. So here it is, 16 ways to find a wife according to the Bible: 1 Find an attractive prisoner of war, bring her home, shave her head, trim her nails, and give her new clothes. Hosea 4 Find a man with seven daughters, and impress him by watering his flock.

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10 Point Godly Spouse Checklist for Women

What does the Bible say about? He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord. Delight yourself in the Lord , and he will give you the desires of your heart. An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.

Abraham was now old and well advanced in years, and the LORD had blessed him in every way. I want you to swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac. Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from? If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine.

Finding a Wife

According to a Washington Post article dated , the proportion of adults who are married has plunged to record lows. It went on to say:. In , for example, 72 percent of all adults were married. The median age for brides was barely 20, and the grooms were just a couple of years older. Married couples have dropped below half of all American households for the first time, the Census Bureau says — a milestone in the evolution of the American family toward less traditional forms. Married couples represented just 48 percent of American households in , according to data being made public Thursday and analyzed by the Brookings Institution. This was far below the 78 percent of households occupied by married couples in

How To Find A Godly Man In A Godless World

Altar Counselors Guide O. Are there apostles today? I see many Christians destroying themselves in the effort to find a husband or a wife. They wear revealing clothes, hang around nightclubs and feel ashamed in church on Sunday.

I would love to see all of you who are godly and single, who want to marry, find a spouse! I want to thank The Transformed Wife and also all the previous commenters to her article here. However, this article near perfectly describes the man I want to be and the woman I want to marry. I work as an aircraft mechanic in the military and am pursing a bachelors in engineering.

16 Ways to Find a Wife According to the Bible

As a pastor, over the years I had my fair share of people approach me to find out if we were a "courtship" church or a "dating" church. The people invariably would tell me that their approach was "the biblical way. Perhaps you've seen this list floating around the world-wide-web, but it's worth reviewing because it makes a very important point. So here it is, 16 ways to find a wife according to the Bible:.

I love everything about weddings. I love their beauty. I love that out of all the ways God reveals His glory, He uniquely designed marriage to display His love for His people. I know this sounds obvious, but first you must pray. Persevere in prayer, brothers, God is not trying to trick you.

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